Pratiloma and Anuloma
According to the Vedic system, marriages between kshatriyas and kshatriyas (warrior/ruling class) or between brahmanas and brahmanas (priest, teacher class) are the general custom. If marriages sometimes take place between different classes, these marriages are of two types, namely anuloma and pratiloma. Anuloma, marriage between a man of the teacher class and the daughter of a warrior, was not seen as problematic by astrologers. However, pratiloma, marriage between a warrior (ruler) and the daughter of a brahmana raised doubts about its acceptability because children could be born with an unhealthy state of mind or very strong, ungovernable desires. This is called varna compatibility (compatibility according to varna, or one’s natural aptitude). In a word, pratiloma (translated as “against hair or grain”) is a marriage where the wife is from a higher class than the husband.
Marriages between proximate ganas are quite stable, but marriages between devata-gana and rakshasa-gana may turn out to be short-lived because of too many discrepancies. In the families, where the spouses belong to the same gana children can be born who are kind, beautiful, wealthy, righteous, glorious, interested in spirituality and living 100 years. In the marriage of unequals, children may be born cruel, deceitful, hating the Vedas and righteousness.
We may take a more relaxed approach to these distinctions nowadays since all people of the current historical period have one and the same predominant mentality, so there’s no apparent contradiction between personality types. The majority of people of this age are characterized by a personality pattern that requires them to help and take care about others. Our care for others is our salvation, our peace of mind and the way out of any situation, even the most challenging one. Two people are always compatible if they are ready to forgo even their personal desires and pursuits in favor of giving themselves to each other. And the opposite is also true: the chances of building good relationships are pretty slim if everyone thinks about oneself only and wants to use others solely as tools in pursuit of one’s own ends.
Nevertheless, an insight into gana compatibility makes it possible to understand the way marriage discrepancies arise when partners fail to understand each other’s psychological type. For example, if a husband is of devata-gana and a wife is of manushya-gana, he’ll be saving money for a future major purchase, such as a car, he considers important, and the wife will be constantly telling him that a car in the future – that’s mighty good, of course, but snow boots are needed right now because winter is close at hand! Another example: the husband is of rakshasa-gana and the wife is of manushya-gana. He can’t stop complaining to his wife that she can’t cook, do the laundry and make a bed the way his mother did. And the wife will be saying that a mother is a sacred thing of course, but today I’ve cooked supper as I think proper, therefore, eat what you are given or go to bed hungry…