We are what we TAKE IN – 2

WE ARE.jpgYes, usually it is said “We are what we eat” and people read labels and ingredients all the time (way to go!), but … research has it – whatever our skin touches, all the ingredients, get into the blood flow in three minutes. Think of soaps and creams.

Lets get more subtle and influential. What we breath in – nose is the only organ that connected directly to the brain. That is why the aromatherapy is so powerful. Smells are very much related to the emotions and the later ones are often influence our decisions.  And again the air is the most essential element for living.

Level up. What we see – affects our mind set. It can be uplifting or degrading. It becomes object of our mind’s attention – and that is already an involuntary meditation  – that’s how advertising banners work. If we do not control what we look at, it will control what we think.

To the top. What we hear – this is food for our mind. Here again – we are what we eat. So what we hear – that is what we TAKE IN. We think it – we digest it! And then it is in our system – we behave based on that, it takes part in our paradigm. The most influential thing – sound! All the negative emotions, destructive, egoistic and exploiting ideas  are the poisonous and dirty food items for our consciousness. What are you listening to/about?

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If a person renounces only because his duties are burdensome, such actions are based on nothing other than sense gratification. The one who leaves the family because it is hard to provide for, harmonize relationships with the relatives or maintain spiritual growth, doesn’t become renounced. He simply tries to find another family, and this is nothing but ugra-karma – a downright heavy karmic misdeed. If a person became a yogi and started to serve the Absolute Truth, it doesn’t mean he should quit the service to everyone else. If we try as hard as we can to share our spiritual happiness (WITH EVERYONE), but don’t endeavor to make our nearest ones happy – OR we even inflict suffering on them, this is quite weird. In fact, this is dangerous. A loving person is able to love even his enemies. Our kinfolks are definitely not our enemies, though if we constantly endeavor to get on the wrong side of them, this can also become a reality.

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A husband and a wife usually have questions about what to do in their particular situation. They want to get hard-and-fast answers to their personal problems. But in the majority of cases these issues are too complicated to give some general advice. Dealing with family issues is never easy since they BASE upon a unique combination of several people’s characters. Even a single individual with a complex personality it’s hard to help. What to speak about the whole group of people who have long been engaged in very enmeshed, entangled relationships?

Only one thing is safe to say to everyone. Don’t be surprised if you face various challenges in your family life. It’s a perfectly normal event. Also, there’s no need to wonder if a husband and wife are not so much compatible. This is also hardly surprising. Spouses must try to get attuned to each other. They should continue to live in peace and never mind the fact that they are both imperfect. Any union between the imperfect ones is imperfect by definition. Hence, the fundamental rule of family life is: don’t get upset over trifles. If the spouses argued a hundred times, they should one hundred times make up with each other. That’s it. That’s the technology of happy family life.

However, it’s common for a family of yogis to face specific problems. A rather unusual situation occurs when one spouse engages in spiritual development, and the other does not. It often develops into a problem after a while, as their lifestyles become way too different. And again, there are no hard-and fast answers to the questions that arise. Each case must be considered individually. But to give the key to understanding, let me relate the story of Srila Prabhupada’s sister Pishima. She also took initiation from Bhaktisiddhanta Sarasvati Thakur. She EVEN looked very much like Srila Prabhupada.

What events took place in her life? She married a man who was not at all interested in spiritual growth. He wasn’t a yogi; neither did he study the scriptures. He was an average man, a Bengali, and like all Bengalis, he liked to eat fish. Pishima was committed to strict vegetarian principles and never ate fish in her life. But after she got married, she daily cooked for her husband the food he asked. She cooked for herself in a separate dish and sanctified her food. But the main thing was that she never complained, dramatized herself or thought about divorce. She submissively served her husband and never disturbed anyone.

Her husband could hardly be called a gift. They say he wasn’t too smart; he would easily lose his temper and pick up a fight. But Pishima continued to serve him humbly. She had CHILDREN by this man. All that time she continued her spiritual practice, her prayer practice. She calmly continued her spiritual path and didn’t try to change anything. Finally, after many-many years, towards the end of his life, the husband suddenly realized how much he underestimated his wife. Realization came upon him that his wife was actually a saintly woman. And he changed radically. After he had spent his entire life with a saintly woman by his side, he finally stepped on the spiritual path. Pishima achieved this through her patience — and it was indeed heroic of her.

Therefore, sages give a simple advice for all. Don’t rush into severing your relationships, if you feel disappointed. Do not think that leaving a husband or wife means that you are very much advanced in spiritual life, that you are a yogi who needs nothing from this world. This kind of renunciation is not recommended in the Bhagavat-Gita. If one gives up prescribed duties perceiving them as weighty or troublesome, this is renunciation in the mode of passion. The one who shirks/ABANDONS his duties in that spirit never gets the result obtained by those who are truly renounced.

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A beginner on the path of spiritual growth is also scared of many things. If he becomes a vegetarian, he fears everything connected with meat. He thinks he can become contaminated even by the word “meat”. For him it’s as if he went on a hunt, strangled the first beast he came across and ate it raw. He’s afraid of the word “meat”, afraid to look at meat, talk about meat. He avoids meat-eaters, fridges where meat was kept, dishes it was cooked in, knives used for meat cutting. These four letters—“m-e-a-t”– he also fears, just in case. A person sincerely thinks that by getting in touch with all these, his consciousness becomes contaminated and he loses qualification and purity necessary for spiritual progress.

As a matter of fact, he is not afraid of meat – he is afraid of himself because attachment to old habits still stays in his heart and doesn’t want to leave. So far as the heart lacks due humility and sincerity, the fear of the past is transferred to external objects and causes additional problems. Life gets very complicated. It turns out that everything around is polluted by meat. It seems all people are meat-eaters and have only one thing on their mind: to add a few bones to the vegetable broth, sneakily. So, a beginner vegetarian doesn’t trust any kitchenware. He sees nothing but dangerous meat all around playing a dirty trick on him.

Meanwhile, we are not so much polluted by the things we reject as by our doubts about the decision to reject them. Second-guessing the choice to become a vegetarian – this is what is really contaminating, rather than the meat itself. And then there’s yet another point I’d like to highlight. I’d like to speak about family problems that arise on the basis of that same superstitions. For a family man, it’s not the opposite sex but his second thoughts about the life partner that contaminate him. Everybody fights against adultery, but no one wants to fight for the purity of consciousness. By the way, the whole problem is rooted in the lack of understanding of family life philosophy.

We fear for our partners and fear for ourselves because we CREATED a family WHILE being unaware of its purpose.

We live in an imperfect world; hence the family life is also imperfect. To pick a perfect partner and make a perfect family is simply impossible. For this, WE have to be perfect ourselves, but we are not. Either the circumstances, or personality traits, parents or personal finance is imperfect. This is hardly surprising. At the same time it’s quite enough to know what to aspire to. If a husband and wife know it, then it’s almost a perfect family.

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Today we’re going to talk about superstitions that interfere with our life. Superstitions exist not only in the western countries, but in the eastern, as well. People of the West are afraid of having a black cat cross their path, or walking under a ladder. One is afraid of losing good luck because one made great efforts to get it. It was so difficult to be born into this world… One had a hard time adjusting to preschool, school and university. One tried really hard to find a job. One worked really hard at the job. Finally, the money on the new car was saved but – look at that! A mirror was broken and a black cat ran across the path…

People of the East are afraid of contamination, rather than losing their good luck. Fear of accidental contamination – that is the eastern superstition. Someone is even afraid of letting the shadow of a low-born man fall on him. There are so many caste superstitions and prejudices. Eastern superstitions also affect western seekers. Sometimes they don’t even know what these things mean and why others are afraid of them. It’s simply scary, and that’s it. Thus, we should straighten the matter out since all these superstitions have a big impact on our life causing additional problems, fears and doubts.

We’ll begin with a story about Nasrudin.

A ruler of the country was once in a bad mood. He was leaving the palace to go hunting, when all of a sudden he saw Nasrudin.

“To see Mulla on the way to hunting is a bad omen!” he shouted to his guards. “Don’t let him stare at me – move him out of the way and whip him!”

The guards did as they had been ordered.

It happened that the ruler enjoyed plentiful hunting. He sent for Nasrudin.

“I’m sorry, Mulla. I thought seeing you was a bad omen. It was not, it transpired.”

“You thought I was a bad omen!” said Nasrudin. “You look at me and get a full game bag. I look at you, and I get a whipping. Who is a bad omen for whom?”

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Yes, the healing process could not start until the body is purged of toxins. If we want to heal not only the body, but also the soul, we must learn to hear out. This is called an austerity, and it’s done according to certain rules, as well. Thus, for instance, you must not participate in an offense. People may pour out many accusations, but the one who listens must not take sides in this matter. He/she should try to see the want for love and friendship in a man, without being engaged in finger-pointing. Being professional in listening means not to take sides. Only those who remain impartial and neutral with desire to see the soul, can actually hear out the whole thing in should of taking sides in a conflict. Many people try to listen, but since they make that mistake – take somebody’s side in an argument – they are not able to hear the whole thing. Hearing quickly turns into discussing the war efforts. Those who supports one of the sides of conflict are the ones to get the main karma load of that conflict. It is them who will suffer the most.iStock_000000312589Medium team-conflict