Today we’re going to focus on two important traits of successful people: vigor and valor. These are more than just key traits of high achievers. These are royal qualities possessed by a person willing to serve the whole country and even the whole world. Vigor and valor characterize both a good leader and a man of faith, ready to fulfill his mission for the benefit of the whole universe. The one who has these characteristics is already successful. These personality traits — especially their auspicious combination — are exceptionally rare to be found within a person. However, it’s not enough to be a successful possessor of wonderful traits. One needs to know how to put them to good use.
In fact, acting vigorously is a sort of “resistance” to the laws of karma. Though, it must be noted that karma doesn’t set a goal of beating one to death. The purpose of karma is to transform a person, purify him of dirty desires and temper his heart. Fire can burn you up, but it also has a purifying power. Karma is like fire. So a wise person perceives it as merciful purification, rather than cruel punishment.
The sages disclose the first secret of karma: no matter what hardships by the twist of fate you are facing, intensive efforts always make you victorious. You needn’t lose heart at the first hint of trouble, just as there’s no need to get upset about stormy weather at sea. Prepare your ship for the voyage. Time will come, and the sea will allow you to subjugate it. ‘Get the things you may need ready before you may need them,’ people say.
It means that at a certain level of endeavors, the heart will get purified of dirt, and karma will let the desired goal come true. The only thing that matters is the goal itself. It must be spiritualized and sublime. Therefore, it is recommended that we have genuine fear of inaction. Inaction is really ought to be feared. There is nothing more dangerous than to have a lofty goal and do nothing. It’s as much as to be a firefighter, see the fire and simply stand by and watch how everything burns down. Or to be a lifeguard and watch someone drown without taking urgent measures. The one who has an aim is bound to act. It is his duty. If he neglects this opportunity, he loses himself. Life becomes devoid of meaning, and one has to be born again and again, to accomplish all his tasks. In fact, we were born again into this world because we were not sufficiently active to achieve lofty goals in our past life.
Sages explain that people in this day and age are too much proud of small occasional deeds they do for others. In point of fact, it’s nothing to be proud of, really. You did something ten years ago, so what of it? Occasional good deeds should be cause for shame, not pride. Only those who are blessed with the mood of constant activity can take pride in helpfulness. Those who actively continue to do good may rest assured things are going the right way. If I bought fine groceries, it doesn’t mean that I cooked a delicious meal. I only got the opportunity to cook it.
By turning the key just once, I may not open the door. In a similar way, I should turn the key to the door of life multiple times, until it becomes unlocked. These “turns” consist of pious actions for the benefit of God and His children. According to the scriptures, the mere desire to serve society and the Lord, without readiness to act vigorously and decisively a whole life long, can be compared to the weakling’s determination to use weapons. It’s most likely that he will hurt himself and cause bodily harm to others. Indolence is not just a problem. It’s a real danger… Just imagine an indolent driver, surgeon or a pilot…
It is a duty of every person to eliminate problems friends and family are facing. We should give support in every way possible to help them establish themselves in the successes and achievements. However, only those who are fond of work, and are able to abandon pleasures at the same time, can fulfill this obligation. It’s no easy matter, actually. It takes some doing. It’s not as simple as going to the movies or having tea together. We must really apply all our efforts for the sake of our close ones, so they could be safe and sound. Otherwise, karma of a person who abandoned his close ones to their fate will follow us.
It is said in the scriptures that the grave elder sister of the goddess of fortune lives side by side with an idle man, while the merciful Shri, the goddess of fortune Herself, resides in human efforts. The two always come together. Yes, Lakshmi and Alakshi are sisters and they love each other. When someone becomes indolent, Shri, the goddess of good fortune, leaves such a person, giving way to Alakshmi, the goddess of bad luck. Alakshi is the very same elder sister of Lakshmi people don’t like to talk about. However, the two siblings are inseparable. The sister bringing misfortune is symbolized by the owl sitting at Lakshmi’s feet.
The law of karma says we should never accuse anyone of not being gifted-minded. But if one is simply not eager to make full effort to get the knowledge essential for life – this is really reprehensible. One may not be naturally gifted or exceptionally smart. That doesn’t matter. Even without special skills or personality traits, it’s possible to achieve the goal of life. One should simply try hard, make active and continuous efforts to attain it. By contrast to this, modern psychologists recommend just thinking about your goal, hoping things will work themselves out. But can you imagine a wife who instead of making dinner says to her husband she’s been visualizing French fries in her mind?
Moreover, it is said in the scriptures: if bad luck doesn’t let one achieve the desired goal, an attempt will pay for itself. Honest and active effort in itself is rewarding. It elevates one a step higher the evolutionary stairway of life. It strengthens the character, gives active experience, provides perspectives for the future and shows the limits of possible efforts. So there are good grounds for saying: “It doesn’t hurt to try.” The one who makes a try doesn’t waste time for he endeavors to understand the system in which he wants to obtain the desired result. Thus, a beginner driver learns how to park properly. First he fails, but after trying a few times he understands the system and finally gets it right. It cannot be emphasized enough that one should simply continue trying.
Lastly, we may even face seemingly impossible tasks. Bold, well-thought-out efforts will enable to see how karma, fate itself steps back. By strengthening the character, active efforts contribute to the evolution of consciousness. It causes karma to change. Therefore, in the society it is customary to reprove a person if he doesn’t develop his skills in a systematic way, doesn’t work on himself or make any steps towards his goal of life. Weak will is a sinful character trait. It eventually prevents one from becoming wise and saintly.
And certainly, to be constantly active, one should exhibit the character trait of valor. An active personality can’t afford to break down under the burden of failure, defeat or hardships. Sages give the great formula for valor: laugh when you face misfortune. It will help you to gain victory over any misfortune or misery. Saints, missionaries and men of faith demonstrate this particular behavior. Being tossed around by the waves of fate, they meet misfortune with a smile. The higher the waves, the more they laugh. But this is not the laughter of a fool. This is the laughter of a fearless person who set his mind on the act of valor. Nothing can deter him from success. Challenges only instigate him and inspire even more decisive actions.
In December 1914 Thomas Edison’s laboratory was burned to ashes. The inventor was already 67 years old when this happened. The fire caused incredible damage. Its equivalent in today’s money would exceed 2 million euros. Comparatively, € 200 000 insurance payout he got was a pittance and could only cover a fraction of the damages.
But that was not the worst. Worse still, all the results of scientific works were destroyed by fire. Edison’s life work, his partly designed scientific inventions, recollections and notes – everything went up in flames. In as little as a couple of hours his life-work was burned to the ground!
Edison’s son searched everywhere for his father. He was anxious about how his father would live through this disaster. It turned out that Thomas Edison stood calmly nearby watching everything from the safe distance. He was absolutely calm and composed. He smiled as he looked at the ruins. He only thing he wanted was to see his wife.
When she came, he seriously told her, “Just look, we haven’t seen anything like that in our whole life! There’s value in disaster. All our mistakes are burned up. Thank God, we can start anew.”
Sometimes things happen that are beyond our control. But it’s up to us to choose how to respond to them. It is we who choose our attitude to the life events.
As it is said in the scriptures, ill luck may come like a flash flood. But if one does some serious thinking, it will go away. Hence, when you feel like you have bad luck, it’s nothing but mental concoction. Mature thinking will enable one to rise above it and take one step further towards the intended goal. It should be well understood that one is born, properly speaking, to become target for bad luck. A wise person knows it and is not disturbed by the adversities. Hardships mostly affect the body, but the intelligence can be above them. Hardships are the natural part of life. They can’t stop a wise person. Yes, we wait for a while at red lights, but it doesn’t end our journey, does it? As soon as the traffic lights change to green, we go forward. When it’s raining heavily, people seek shelter from rain. But when the shower abates, they head towards their destinations even faster.
Hence, the following conclusion is given in the scriptures. Those can easily go through hardships who don’t let the thirst for pleasures grow in their soul and realize it is the human lot to meet with difficulties. Also, the way one will react in the time of trouble can be seen from one’s behavior during a lucky streak. This must be clearly understood. If one keeps cool head amid success, one is protected from grief during times of misfortune. Such a person will be able to resist hardships and even overcome them. He who keeps cool head during a spate of good luck is sure to find strength to live through hard times, as well.
And now, I’d like to tell you a parable of Tadao Yamaguchi that is popular among businessmen.
“Master,” asked the disciple, “what’s the role of luck and chance in success?”
“What do you mean by these terms?” preceptor bent his head interrogatively.
The disciple thought for a minute.
“It is by pure chance when I turn to a client who has just run out of goods that I’m selling. For some reason, his regular supplier can’t deliver them, so as a result, I get a new customer. And it is sheer luck if I go to a party, for example, and suddenly meet a person very important for my business. When it’s been a long time since I wanted to find some approach to him.”
“You might have noticed,” said the Master, “that those whom you consider lucky simply work more. They frequently turn to those whom they want to see as their customer. They often visit the places where they stand a good chance of meeting a right person.”
“So you want to say it’s only the matter of chance?” the disciple showed surprise.
“Not only,” frowned the Master. “First of all, this is hard work.”
Since we’re constantly learning – the process of learning continues throughout life – we are immensely responsible for transmitting this knowledge to others. A full-fledged educational system includes knowledge on how to share information acquired. We should transfer the knowledge we get proficiently, effectively and on a regular basis. The science of knowledge transfer has many subsections. Listeners may belong to different categories. Each of them requires a different approach to be convinced to accept our knowledge. Seniors, juniors and equals are trained according to certain rules, considering the differences between them. But today we’ll discuss broad guidelines enabling to give knowledge to any person, regardless of their age, education and social status.
Naturally, first and foremost, to impart some information, we must be firmly convinced of it. We are transmitting not just information itself, but our confidence. Feeling of confidence is the invisible information-carrying medium, and it must be top-quality. Imagine that you help a driver to pull out of driveway onto the busy road. He can’t see the road and fully trusts you. You give him the sign whether to turn onto the road or to wait a little. And if you aren’t sure about what you are doing, better not to help at all. Otherwise, it may result in an accident. This is why drivers are especially annoyed by unsophisticated passengers giving them driving tips.
As soon as you become convinced of the truthfulness of knowledge you get, you may start distributing this knowledge. Here, it’s not the power of reasoning or strong convincing skills that play the major role. In the process of knowledge transfer, love rules the roost. Yes, if the speech of the person, except their confidence in the message, is saturated with love, it reaches the very heart of a listener and is perceived as the most valuable gift. We must be aware of that. Pleasant speech is not deceitful flattery. It is a true message imparted by those who are full of compassion towards the listener and hence, choose words that protect veracity from rudeness.
Mark these words: a wise person protects veracity from pride and rudeness. Pride and rudeness downgrade the importance of the message of truth and can even destroy it completely. Under the influence of rudeness and pride, the truth easily turns into dangerous lies. Love is the fire that transforms a dish of knowledge into a splendid feast. If a person lacks love (displays rudeness), the dish is undercooked. If there’s too much love or it is wrongly directed (pride), the dish is burnt. Having quality food products is not enough – one needs to cook them perfectly. To receive truth is not enough because one needs to protect it. The Truth is one – it’s easy to give it an imperceptible twist, harness it to serve the false ego and start to exploit. Therefore, the duty of every right-minded person is to protect the truth at all costs.
Sages say that sweet words, gladness and a loving glance, when they accompany a gift, are valued more highly than the gift itself. Gift-giving is a good deed, an act of kindness, but well-wishing attitude touches the heart even more. The same goes for knowledge. Maybe our knowledge won’t help a conversation partner to learn anything new. But if he feels our love, if he feels that we see the beautiful soul in his heart, it will encourage him to reevaluate the words he might have heard a hundred thousand times before. He’ll be able to see things in a different light. How many times in our life did we hear that God loves us? But what have we understood? Has anyone ever given thought to it?
But one fine moment we hear the same words and suddenly realize that God really loves us and pushes us toward happiness by all means, although we stand up against it. He doesn’t take offence and continues to send loving teachers. We suddenly come to this realization because a person who says these words is speaking with love. It is selfless display of love, for no obvious reason. We are moved by this merciful spiritual love. Our heart melts. And the simple words “God loves you” become so easily understandable that we immediately feel like we want to go and tell others about it.
Someone who talks about human suffering must really see this suffering and show real compassion towards people. Sages say that pain is soothed by a frank look in the eyes, sympathetic glance and caring words. Otherwise, our help won’t bring any real relief to anyone else’s heart. A person will hear right things, undeniable facts, well-shaped logical arguments… But the heart won’t be softened. In fact, it may become even more cynical and cold. Instead of embracing spiritual path, one may close his mind against it once and forever, if we give that person a cold shoulder instead of warm-hearted welcome. The one who knows is not the full embodiment of knowledge. He only invites others into its realm. But we shouldn’t forget that people judge by those who stand at the entrance. The knowledge we invite to obtain is judged by its representatives.
Even from a material standpoint, kindness brings only benefits. A modern man thinks that in order to flourish, one needs to be pushy and harsh. In reality, except brutal force, one needs to know the golden rule for prosperity. According to it, the one who gladdens people’s hearts with kind words has nothing to fear from poverty. People will never leave such a person in the lurch. Yes, by using brutal force and being rude, one can really get rich quick. But a rich man is not necessarily a prosperous man. Prosperity is the absence of poverty, and poverty is always ready to return to a rude man. Poverty adores harsh people. Therefore, the Vedas differentiate between temporary riches and permanent prosperity. These are two different things. Temporary riches are like the flash of a match in the darkness, even though it’s very bright. Prosperity is compared to an oil lamp that, although it may be not too bright, burns steadily all night long.
It is said in the scriptures that the true adornment of a prosperous man is not jewelry, but his righteous speech and impeccable manners. Strange, indeed, that people are rude to each other, despite knowing full well how much joy sweet words can bring. Something makes us be rude; it is the direct influence of our past. When we want to say pleasant things, but swear-words fall from our lips instead, in this very moment we can fathom our past life. Our karma comes to us and makes us reveal the true nature of our character that is called prarabdha-karma. The way we behaved in the past affects our behavior in the present. Therefore, changes in the heart start with changing the speech.
Sages say: if you can use soft words, why to pronounce hurtful ones? Isn’t it stupid to pick unripe berries and trample down the ripe ones with your feet? It must be remembered that low-minded people are always rude, average-minded people answer rudeness with equal rudeness, and high-minded individuals are never rude, no matter how bad they are treated. Therefore, an intelligent person should think twice before saying something.
One should decide: is it really necessary to say to this person what I want to say? Can I speak kindly, or am I going to let harsh words slip out? Am I sure what I’m going to say is true? I should also make sure that my words don’t inflict pain on someone not in my presence, even if that person won’t hear them right now.
Will my words make any difference at all? Wouldn’t it be better to keep silent and say nothing? Isn’t it that my talk is a fat lot of use?
Wise people say that even in everyday life we shouldn’t yell loudly at a person. If he stands far from you, do not yell across the street – come closer and talk calmly, softly and with love. When we start yelling, it is never soft and kind. It is always rough and angry. So be careful about your speech in any situation. Misuse of the tongue leads to commitment of four sins: malicious gossip, fault-finding, cheating and idle talk. These four flaws are said to give no peace neither to the individual, nor the society one mingles with. There are three interrelated factors: proper perception, proper hearing and proper speech. If one of them is missing, other factors also suffer. If the speech is indecent, the vision also becomes perverted. One hears right things but takes them the wrong way.
And here is a funny story of perception. Once, all villagers came to the local sage and asked, “What’s more important – the sunlight or the moonlight? We can’t understand.”
The sage thought for a while and said, “Certainly, the moonlight is more important!”
“But why?” the folks asked. “Could you explain to us, know-nothings?”
“It’s quite simple,” said the sage. “The moon shines at night when it’s dark and we need it to shine. The sun shines during the daytime, when it’s already light around and we have no need for it at all.”
The villagers listened and thought, “Isn’t it time for us to find another sage?”
For a modern man, the major problem is not to decide on things, but to see them through to completion. If one gives up before they finish what they start, this can hardly be called determination. It’s more of a commonplace dissatisfaction. One lacks happiness and tranquility, and therefore spreads oneself too thin, tackles too many things at once, hoping to get a least some enjoyment. Such attitude to life, however, more reminds of shopping without money. One may spend much time choosing good clothes, may try them on, ask what they cost, imagine wearing them… But if one lacks money, it all makes no sense. It’s nothing but disappointment. Similarly, a person doing things by halves is like the one without money. One tries different things, but there’s not the slightest use in doing so. One becomes a complete failure in life, sinking deeper and deeper into depression.
Hence, today we’re going to go over several important rules that will help us to bring that deadlock to the end.
The first rule sages remind about sounds unexpectedly. Do not reveal your intentions to people; keep them secret, being determined to carry them into execution. This point is insufficiently understood nowadays. Some announce large building projects and timelines for them; others demand that all the details on construction be reported and unveiled in advance. As a result, everyone is dissatisfied. Has anyone ever managed to deliver their project on time and within the allocated budget? Big building plans are being announced, rigid timelines are being established. But everyone goes mad from that later. People are kicking themselves for getting involved in that.
It is quite common for all the spheres. Some announce deadlines for overcoming crisis, others –for development of a new drug or for opening a restaurant on Mars…
As a result, work is done hastily and carelessly, with the sole aim of meeting the tight deadline. Yes, the great expert can do it effectively and on time. But where can we find so many great experts? If an inexperienced employee is faced with the rigid deadline, the quality of work will inevitably suffer. It will only bring problems because such work will need to be redone anyway. Why is so much emphasis put on time? It happens because no one cares about the worker as a person. Work has become impersonal these days. Everyone is interested only in the end result. Hardly anybody cares about what personalities stand behind these achievements. If an expert cook can make 10 pies in half an hour, he can certainly make 100 pies, if you force him, but that would no longer be the same perfect pies. Just look at the foodservice system and you’ll understand everything. It has that problem: an attempt to cook satisfactory meals in as short time as possible. As for me, I would never eat at such a place.
Therefore, the sages don’t recommend setting official deadlines. Time limits must be set with due consideration of those who carry on with the work. If there are changes in the staff, the timeframes must also be changed. If timeframes are rigid and officially set, it makes an inexperienced worker tricky and cunning. Finally, it leads to the loss of quality and even total failure.
In a word, the secret is simple: external timeframes must be broad, while internal timeframes must be individually-set and precise. What a former worker could do in a day a new employee would probably accomplish only in a week. You can certainly make him perform this job in one day, but it’s going to be sheer drudgery. And remember: there’s nothing more unprofessional than to accuse a new employee of being slower than the ex-worker. By doing so, you don’t help him to become professional. It would only make him cunning and nervous.
This awfully reminds of a well-known parable of the scorpion and the frog.
The frog was once walking along the bank of a large deep river when the scorpion approached her. He wanted to get to the other side.
“Could you give me a ride on your back across the river?” he asked.
“I haven’t gone crazy yet,” replied the frog. “You’ll get on by back, but as soon as we’re in the water, you’ll sting me.”
“My dear frog,” said the scorpion politely, “if I sting you, we’ll both drown for I cannot swim. And I don’t want to die either.”
The argument seemed reasonable, so the frog agreed to help him across the river.
But in midstream the scorpion did indeed sting the frog.
The dying frog gasped, “Why have you done that? You will die too…”
The scorpion said, “Yes, I don’t want to die. But because I’m a scorpion, I couldn’t help but sting. This is my nature…”
Cooperation means we should complete assigned tasks together with people whom we can change inasmuch as they are able to change at this moment. Sometimes one doesn’t see any point in changing oneself at all. A thief continues to steal, a cheat continues to cheat, a fault-finder severely criticizes everyone, a lazy person leans away from work even at the crucial moment. But together we must go towards our goal, making the best use of our weaknesses and drawbacks. It’s quite impossible to put together a team of faultless people. Faultless people won’t be eager to participate in our project – they’ll start their own. What’s more, there are no absolutely faultless people in this world. There’s nothing to do here for them.
When dealing with a person, we must understand from the very beginning that he/she is not perfect and as a matter of fact, is not going to become as such in the near future. Therefore, we should take an individual approach and engage everyone according to their abilities. A thief should be appointed a guard and charged with the task of preventing theft from happening. A cunning person should be appointed as senior and given the task of preventing trickery and deceit in workplace. A lazy fellow should be assigned tasks that must be executed in a way that nothing gets done, as a result. There are pieces of work like that. If we understand the purpose of work perfectly well, we can utilize anyone’s good and even bad sides to achieve it. The Vedic astrology deals precisely with that. A good astrologer is able to comprehend the inward nature of a person and their hidden abilities. However, not everybody needs to know how precisely we meet our goals.
So let’s get back to the instructions given by the sages. They admonish us again and again: don’t put your trust in a bad companion nor even trust an ordinary friend, for if he should get angry with you, he may bring all your secrets to light. This world is by definition the world of duality. Any good achievements are accompanied by an array of problems and shortcomings. Beginner seekers of truth, as they join the spiritual movement, think that it must be perfect. But they find themselves plunged into the depths of despair. The spiritual movement taking place in the material world has all the disadvantages of the material world. Spiritual movement is valuable not because it is devoid of shortcomings, but because it takes us out of the material world. A life jacket is wet when you wear it on the water, but it keeps you from drowning. A fire extinguisher can spoil all your things, but its task is simply to choke a fire.
I’d like to make you aware of the following. He is a friend in whom we can confide even our deepest, darkest secrets, and she only is a wife in whose company the husband feels contented and peaceful. Both a wife and a friend never speak ill about you behind your back. In the Vedas a hypocritical person is compared to a pitcher of poison with milk on top. As soon as you realize that someone says bad things behind your back, you can no longer consider that person a wife or a friend. In fact, you have to start over with him/her, if you can.
Well then, we have the goal at hand and people who can help achieve it. We make a true estimate of our own abilities and that of each and every individual we cooperate with. We are not rigid with timelines and we don’t promise wonders to outside observers. At the same time we set accurate timelines for all our helpers with due regard to their personal characteristics.
There’s one more point here that needs to be emphasized. Goals should be accomplished in the mood of making a present or surprise. A true goal is selfless by nature. It is accomplished to make another person happy. And we feel the most happy when we receive a present or a surprise gift.
Hence, goals should be pursued in the gift-giving mood. We reach our goals to make others happy. Don’t let them know about a coming present in advance. It should be a surprise. Then we are sure to get the best result. First of all, it’s the present for God because we understand that we obtain results not by our efforts alone, but by the mercy of the Absolute Truth. We are like kids who buy a present for a mother with her own money or money stolen from dad’s pocket. Everyone knows about the origin of this present, but it’s no less pleasant. We give away not only the final result, but our pure and humble mood, free from bitter taste of self-complacency and selfishness.
There’s no need to get upset if we are not good at something — that we’re not people of extraordinary talent. Special skills and talents are not necessary for happiness. To attain happiness, one needs to be humble. This is the desire to think more of others than oneself. Talents would be more of a hindrance than a help on this path.
And lastly, here is an interesting parable.
Three fairies were invited to the christening of a baby prince. They all bestowed gifts upon him. One of fairies blessed the prince to find his true love. Another fairy blessed him to have as much money as he could want. The third fairy gave him the gift of beauty. But as is usually the case with fairy-tales, a witch turned up. She was so angry she hadn’t been invited that she spitefully declared: “You already have everything, but I’d like to give you something more. You would be skilful in everything you do.”
The prince grew up handsome, rich and beloved by all. He was a perfect painter, sculptor, musician, and mathematician. But he couldn’t follow through with anything because he easily got distracted and always wanted to start something new. So he died unhappy because he did everything by halves.
Several frogs were leaping through the forest, heading for their frog businesses, when two of them fell into a deep hole. All the other frogs surrounded the pit, deciding how can they help their comrades. When they saw how deep the pit was, they were in horror. They agreed that it was hopeless and told the two frogs that they had better prepare themselves to their destiny, because they are already almost dead.
Unable to accept this terrible fate, two frogs began to jump up as high as they could. Some frog screamed into the pit that it was useless and that they would not be in this situation if you were more careful, more obedient to the laws of the frogs and more responsible. The rest of the sad frogs continued to advise to stop trying, because they are already dead. Two frogs continued to jump up struggling, and after several hours of desperate attempts they were completely exhausted.
In the end, one of the frogs paid attention to the cries of its friends. Lowering its hand, it quietly decided on the fate, lay on the bottom of the pit and died, while others watched helplessly. The other frog continued to jump, though its body ached with pain, and it was completely exhausted. Comrades from the top again began to call on it to accept fate, to stop bringing pain to self and just die.
Emaciated frog jumped harder and harder, and – wonder of wonders! – In the end, it jumped so high that popped out of the pit. Amazed, frogs celebrated this miraculous deliverance. Then crowded around they began to ask: “Why did you continue to jump, even though we told you it was impossible?” Reading their lips, astonished frog explained – I am deaf, and when I saw your gestures and cries, I thought, that you are cheering me. All this was seen as a support, inspiring the frog to try harder to get out and win.
This simple story has a powerful meaning. The book of proverbs says: “In the power of the tongue lies life and death.” Your destructive words can cause deep wounds, they can become a weapon, destroying someone’s desire to continue to make attempts – or even their lives. Your destroying careless words can humiliate someone in the eyes of others, break their reputation and have a lasting impact on the attitude of the society towards this person. Your encouraging words can cheer someone and help him/her stay that way every day.
Be careful what you say. Incredible strength lies in the words. If you have the words of kindness, praise and encouragement, then you say them right away. Listen to your heart and answer. Someone somewhere is waiting for your words (from a lecture HH BVG Maharaja ).
Consciousness has a reflective nature: if everyone is laughing, I am also starting to giggle, and if all curse, I also go into a fight. The truth is that we should seek knowledge of how to make others happy, because only in this case, we can become happy.