Want to be AWESOME?

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Become an awesome individual, who anyone will be happy to be with.
If you are an educator, parent, grandparent or a person that someone looks up to (or you want to be) – watch, learn and do!
Wise Parenting program will list 30 personal traits, explaining and exploring each in depth, plus practical assignment for developing every quality.
This Intro class shows how the system works, its basis and origin, also the method of passing the qualities on children or other people.

30 Qualities of Awesome Person

 

Become an awesome individual, who anyone will be happy to be with.
If you are an educator, parent, grandparent or a person that someone looks up to (or you want to be) – watch, learn and do!
Wise Parenting program will list 30 personal traits, explaining and exploring each in depth, plus practical assignment for developing every quality.
This Intro class shows how the system works, its basis and origin, also the method of passing the qualities on children or other people.

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Dear friends, this is my first book for kids as well as adults. There is a deep wisdom for you and simple learning for children.

We learn the best by taking information, dwelling on it and coming to our very own conclusion, thus creating an inner experience. Than only it becomes a part of our own wisdom and we gain the ability use it in any circumstances of life.

Here is a story that can become the part of your inner experience and base for one more pool of wisdom in your consciousness.

Are you bored to do what you have to do again and again day after day? Have you ever thought to yourself, why me, why I have to do it?

The life gave this place because it is the best place for you to learn something very essential for moving on.

Find out what did Sun learned about his place in life.

If you have a young child, this book will make it easy to learn the names and sequence of the days of the week. And you always can discuss the adventure too. For wisdom comes not with age…

Ebook available here

 

 

Marriage problems?

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Yes, it is that important and valuable! Don’t listen to all kind of “well-wishers” that advise to divorce, no matter who it is!

If you have marriage problems,  please understand that your family is like a sick child, would you try to heal or kill? What kind of situation it has to be that you would decide to kill? Can you imagine any? Would you listen to people who give you such an advice?

On the other hand, would you sit and wait that the disease will go on its own if ignored? No, you will do everything possible and impossible for healing!

If no one supports you in your desire to preserve that life of your family-child and your hopes heal it comment here – we are there for you with all our knowledge and experience!

Like and share the post for it may SAVE A LIFE of a family,  comment if you have any questions!

VIDEO – How To Fix Broken (Or Build Up Functioning) Parent-Child Relationship

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DO YOU WANT TO HAVE BETTER RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR CHILD OR PARENT?

Do you feel that something is missing?

Does your relationship lack warmth and closeness?

Do you think it needs more mutual trust?

May be  the relationship is not as good as it used to be or it is (nearly) destroyed?

If you can answer YES to one or more of these questions,

Than this Free Online Class is for you

“How To Fix Broken (Or Build Up Functioning) Parent-Child Relationship”

To learn 6 simple and ABSOLUTELY PRACTICAL steps,
that you will be able to apply IMMEDIATELY in your relationship

WATCH HERE

What is responsibility ?

responsibility-is-100-readiness-to-accept-any-and-all-results-or-consequences-of-my-actions-and-inactionsWhat is responsibility?  It is 100%  readiness to accept any and all results or consequences of my actions and inactions.

Here are some examples :

  • someone stepped on my foot – I am responsible – I was on the way
  • my child is trowing tantrum  – I am responsible – I did not prepare him/her for situation
  • people crossing my boundaries of space or time – I am responsible – I did not show and explained them clearly there the line is

Share this with your friends, Like it if you feel so, share your thoughts and experience on topic in comments

Fanaticism (chapter from “How to Get Twice as Happy” by V.O. Ruzov)

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Fanaticism consists of redoubling your effort

when you have forgotten your aim…

 

 

Today we’ll talk about fanaticism, which is quite a common phenomenon in this world. It can be seen almost everywhere. We meet fanatics of football, hockey, TV series, celebrities, cars, computers, nationalities and countries. In fact, crazy fans can be found in any area touched upon by human consciousness. It’s a wholly internal phenomenon which refers to human perception and is indicative of one’s inner world. And it’s a prominent diagnostic symptom for someone who tries to help a person address their current problem.

 

It can be said that in 90% of cases human problems are somehow or other connected with fanatic attitude towards life. It’s also true that in the same 90% of cases one finds it hard to admit that their problem is rooted in fanaticism. So the first thing we must realize is that a fanatic is the most difficult person to help. Such people ardently believe that they are not fanatics at all. Thus, in order to help them we must be ‘fans of our own work’ so that our professionalism could exceed self-confidence of a suffering person.

 

So, how to recognize a fanatic? It’s quite simple. Crazy fan is a brilliant representative of black and white thinking, without any shades of gray. He/she accepts either black or white and can’t allow any combination to exist. For example, a Hare Krishna fanatic sincerely believes that the most imperfect Hare Krishna devotee is still much better than a good Christian. And conversely, a Christian fanatic is sure that the weakest Christian is much better than the best Hare Krishna devotee. To put it shortly, whoever is not with us can’t get into our category of white. Regardless of their deeds, they’ll always stay in the category of black.

 

It points to the fact that we don’t let representatives of other world-views into our mind. And there’s only one reason for that. We don’t know what to say if they ask why we see the world the way we see it. We simply don’t know the answer to the question of why we are doing what we are doing. We aren’t sure about our choice, and thus exclude any possibility of conversation on the subject. There are no questions raised among fanatics. By the way, this is one of the symptoms of fanaticism. How can a person who is afraid of questions come up with inquiry? So as you have probably noticed we insist that questions be asked before and after the lecture. This is extremely important both for the lecturer and the listener. A lecturer must be sure that he/she does not incite fanaticism. And listeners must make sure they aren’t becoming fanatics. Thus, any silent listener who doesn’t ask questions is a potential fanatic. By the way, this is precisely why our consultancy is based on question-and-answer platform. It initially cuts off fanatic individuals, as there’s nothing harder than to give advice to a crazy fan. What can you say to a person who considers you an enemy, at least to some degree? This is no longer a consultation, but fighting for dear life.

 

Another trait a fanatic has is that he/she wants everything to happen quickly. Fanatics want enlightenment to be attained quickly, temples to be built quickly. They want to get initiation and attain recognition as fast as possible. They don’t care about the quality – the main thing is that it all should happen fast. This is the main characteristic to make them easily recognizable. Fanatics are always in a hurry; they are dissatisfied with the fact that everything goes slowly. They speak to others: “Why are you so slow? Why is your progress so slow? Why haven’t you accepted a spiritual master yet? Why aren’t you with us? Why do you keep hesitating – you’ll run out of time.” But here’s something they can’t understand. No matter how hard you run around the train, you won’t be able to reach your destination faster. You’ll only make yourself tired and annoy all others. I’d like to tell a funny parable in this regard.

 

One morning a disciple and his master took a path across the fields. The disciple asked what kind of diet could help to achieve purity. Although his master spoke a lot about the sacred food, the disciple couldn’t believe it.

 

“There must be some special food that instantly brings us closer to God,” he said.

“Well, maybe you’re right,” said the master. “For example, that mushrooms over there.”

 

The disciple got all excited thinking that mushrooms can bring purity and enlightenment. But when he stopped to pick one, he cried out:

“Why, they are poisonous! If I eat a least one of them, I’ll die on the spot!”

“Well excuse me,” said the master, “I don’t know any other food that can bring you closer to God as soon as you want.”

 

As we already found out, fanaticism is the blind, irrevocable adherence to beliefs, especially in the religious, philosophical, political or national sphere. It is driven to extremes by commitment to ideas, views or beliefs and is usually combined with intolerance to views and beliefs of others. It seems quite understandable. We agree that fanaticism is something one should keep away from; that such people are in sore need of help. But in reality, fanaticism is advantageous for those who are selfish, cunning and are ready to sacrifice a couple of crazy fans for execution of their own projects. Fanatics are sometimes mistreated, and this is also fanaticism. Anti-fanaticism is just the other side of the story. Fanaticism is a natural stage of development, after all. It shouldn’t be rejected. It must be corrected and balanced out. Therefore, those who fight against fanaticism are also semi-fanatic.

 

What advantage can be sucked out of fanaticism? It’s as easy as ABC. As an emotional state, it’s characterized by excessive zeal and enthusiasm. If we have a project that is not so easy to implement, or we don’t want to spend money on it, we can simply find a couple of fanatics, and they’ll move mountains and rivers to achieve this goal. You just have to explain how important the thing is. Thus, one can easily recognize those who take advantage of fanatics as gratuitous workers. They find a fanatic and convince him/her of great significance of what they should do. Such exploiters make crazy fans leap into the breach on their behalf. And when they are no longer able to make headway, everyone simply forgets about their existence.

 

In fact, fanaticism is a psychological illness. It equals to blindness both towards oneself and things to be done. This indicates reluctance to see the world as a whole. It’s not a worldview, but a partial vision, philosophical cataract. Therefore, fanatics should in no way be exploited or selfishly used for one’s own ends. They must be cured of their fanaticism. Sooner or later a fanatic will understand that he/she was being exploited. Resentment will be the only feeling that will arise in heart. They’ll be resentful against the whole world. Therefore, the one who is truly merciful does not incite fanaticism. One tries to reduce it by talking to a person as if they already got rid of their disease.

 

Let’s have a look at some other aspects of fanaticism. It will help us recognize fanatic without fail or find signs of this disease in ourselves. What is fanatic way of thinking? What does ‘fanatic’s worldview’ imply? Let’s get this straightened out.

Fanatic sincerely believes that:

 

  • the world was created by God but can’t understand how those who don’t share his/her religious views could come into being. Fanatic honestly thinks that those who disagree have no relation to the plans of God; that they are God’s enemies. He/she can’t even assume that God Himself has sent these people to destroy fanaticism which prevents spiritual advancement.

 

  • a different philosophy or belief system needs to be taken with a whole shakerful of salt. At the same time those who are doubtful or skeptical about fanatic’s own philosophy are nothing but ignorant fools. Fanatic thinks that those ill-fated people are crazy because they don’t see the purity and sublimity of his/her ideas.

 

  • They are always confident that their world outlook is much wider than any other’s. They are absolutely confident that in their scriptures much more information is given. It is far more detailed and clear. Fanatics consider people who disagree as unlucky creatures who suffer from being narrow-minded. Fanatic wants to open the eyes of the whole world thinking that everyone else is blind, and only he/she is able to see.

 

  • Fanatic is genuinely surprised to hear that the sacred teachings of scriptures must be applied in real life and their application may significantly differ from the original teaching.

 

  • Fanatic sincerely thinks that persons who hold a different belief system must have come under the influence of some cunning and crafty man. This cheat must be exposed. Then everyone will see that they were cheated. At this stage “we can help them all”.

 

  • Fanatic sincerely believes that to think and have a personal opinion is no better than atheism.

 

  • Fanatic is sure that any materialistic book is written for the sake of earning money or fame, while any spiritual book is written in all sincerity.

 

  • By the way,

 

  • an atheist fanatic really thinks that crimes committed by religious people completely discredit their religion; while crimes atheists commit don’t throw any suspicion on atheism and are not related thereto.
  • Fanatic atheists assert that belief in God is a blind faith, but don’t notice that they themselves blindly believe in the absence of God.
  • Fanatic atheist is sure that each person has their own definition of good and evil, but faith in God must be evil for everyone.
  • Fanatic atheist is sure that any religious person is mentally ill by definition.
  • Atheist fanatics think that people hold religious beliefs only not to go to hell. And when someone tells such an atheist about hell, he/she thinks this is done exclusively for the sake of getting money or gaining access to his/her apartment…

 

We’ll end the lecture with the parable.

 

Satan once went for a walk with his servant. They saw a man who bent down and picked something off the ground.

“What has this man found?” asked the servant.

“A piece of truth,” replied Satan.

“Doesn’t it bother you?”

“No,” said Satan. “He’ll make a new fanatical religion out of it.”